Problems, either he finds you, or you find him

At the age of 30, i start to feel that human beings like to look for problems when there is none on hand.

In Singapore, most of us has no problems with our daily needs. Working adults like me, we earn, we spend, we eat with no worries. When family is ok, work is ok, health is ok, or even relationship is ok, what happens? He/She might just start to look for problems.

Say, start to feel that career is stagnant... no meaning.. everyday do the same thing..

Start to feel money earned is not enough, that he is doing more work compared to a fellow colleague who is drawing more pay than himself.

Start to feel she dun look better than a colleague in terms of appearance, figure, hair, nose, of anything.

Those with no relationship feels depressed, lonely, no one to go out with, no one to celebrate Valentines Day.

Those in a relationship might feel the same way, start to find problems with their relationship, with their partner, thinking he/she might feel more happy with someone else, feeling relationship is stagnant. Feel tied to the ground, feels she dun hv enough of her own time.

Okay, with all/some of the above problems, he start to try to solve them. After a problem is solved, say he found a new job, a new goal, say he breaks off with his gf, he starts to feel better, but, after sometime, either a problem finds him, or, he finds another problem, maybe this time with his family.

When i watch the news, showing ppl in Iraq, in Afica, or in say a poor area in Thailand, where ppl catch fish for living, i think they might have problems with their basic needs. Therefore, they have no time to find new problems. I doubt they will feel their job is stagnant, no challenge, pay no good, welfare lousy, no bonus, not enough leave per year etc. As long as they earn enough to buy food and provide shelther for their family, i think they are more than contented.

So what's the problem here with us? Yes, we are too blessed with good stuff. We should hv nothing to worry liao (unless genuine family/health problems). But itz because we hv nothing to worry liao that we start to find problems with our life.

And yes, some of the mentioned problems might be for a better improved life, say better jobs, higher pay etc. Therefore, there are good problems, there are bad problems, and there are these bo liao nothing better to do go find a problem kind of problems.

So the next time say an Ah Beng approaches you and say:"Whey, u looking for problem itz!??" maybe u can reply him "Yes, how u know?", or, do a reflection on whether you've been really looking for problems with yr own life.